You Don't Need to "Heal" to Be Happy- Just Be Present

What’s up, people? This is my first official blog, and I hope it finds you well. Somewhere deep in your heart and soul, I hope you allow yourself to truly receive this message. I write from my spirit because I won’t share anything with the collective without first checking in with myself—and most importantly, the higher power.

I overstand that in the times we’re living in, religion and spirituality can be sensitive topics. Though I am not religious, I am deeply spiritual. Through my experiences with religion and by developing my own trusted spiritual practices and tools, I’ve realized that much of my growth, accomplishments, and genuine connections wouldn’t be possible without the higher power. I often refer to it as the universal life force energy, but I still say “God,” because truthfully, God is within us—as God is everywhere.

🧠 We Don’t Always “Heal”—And That’s Okay

I’ve noticed how often people push the idea of “healing”—healing wounds, healing relationships, healing everything. But here’s what I believe: most people don’t fully “heal” in the way we think. As humans, we’re born imperfect. If we were meant to be perfect, we’d have it all figured out—we wouldn’t need support, love, or someone to talk to.

Nature itself reminds us that we’re not meant to be alone. It reminds us to share our love with our tribe. The very definition of “heal” is “to make well again.” That word again is key—it shows that healing is a continuous cycle of becoming again.

So give yourself grace. Give others grace as they try to become well again, too. Step away if you need to—but don’t step so far away from yourself that you forget how to feel, grow, and return home to your own spirit.

Add another layer to your growth. So when you need strength, you know how to pull from within. You’ll know, through your own imperfections and honesty, how to be relatable—and trustworthy—to others going through their own pivotal moments.

💔 Let’s Talk About Relationships

One thing I see in our society is how much people idolize romantic relationships. The “boyfriend,” “wife,” “soulmate”—as if that’s the ultimate achievement. But no one talks enough about the growing pains inside those relationships.

You don’t need a partner to have a sacred connection. You don’t need a label to have a covenant with someone who truly sees you, understands you, and accepts you as you are, right now. You just need to be present.

🌿 Being Present Is a Practice

Being present means allowing yourself to feel whatever the moment holds. Maybe it’s a crappy day. But that doesn’t mean you have to be crappy. You don’t have to linger or fester in the negative.

Our brains repeat 60–70% of what we did the day before. So if you want to feel different, you have to fight for you—and rewire how you respond to your emotions.

One of the best ways to do that is by being present. Here’s what it can look like:

• Feeling the water on your hands while washing dishes

• Noticing the warmth of the sun on your skin

• Taking a deep breath before answering a text

The more often you catch these micro-moments, the more rooted in now you become.

💡 Let Go of the Idea That You’re Broken

Healing can subtly become a way of saying, “I’m not enough yet.” But here’s the truth: you can heal and live fully at the same time. There’s nothing wrong with feeling pain, confusion, or exhaustion. That’s just life unfolding.

💬 Feel, Don’t Fix

You don’t have to fix every emotion. Let it pass through you. Sit with the discomfort without making it a problem. Most of what we call “healing” is actually just feeling the emotions we’ve been avoiding.

Presence is found in acceptance. Say yes to the mess. Yes to the unknown. Yes to this version of you—not the one who has it all figured out.

🫂 Final Words

I hope this blog gave you something to hold onto. More than anything, I hope it reminded you that you’re not alone. I’ve walked through many of the same things, and writing this is a way for me to stay grounded too.

Perfection isn’t the goal—presence is.

There’s beauty in the struggle, and strength in showing up as we are. So with grace, I’ll say this: I’m here, I’m growing, and I’m at peace with the process.

Love always.